‘Guys Will Harrass You To Get It’ – Women Speak On Giving Out Phone Numbers

It has been observed that when men express interest in ladies and ask for their phone numbers, there are basically three types of responses from ladies. They either say no, give a fake number or give out their actual phone numbers.

There are ladies who give out their numbers freely whether they have interest in the men asking, and those who do not give out their numbers if they have no interest.

For the women who give out their numbers freely, they respond to the men if they have genuine interest.

But if they don’t, the potential relationship dies right from the beginning as they never respond to the man’s texts or calls.

Some women even go as far as blocking the men’s numbers to avoid all forms of future interactions.

THE WHISTLER correspondent spoke to a number of ladies to ascertain where they stand on this issue and their reasons for their stance.

Juliet Jemihe, a flight attendant, said she is one of the women who just give out their numbers and block the men afterward if she has no interest.

“I do that just so I can move on because guys will literally harass you, follow you, walk with you to where you’re going, and won’t leave you alone till they get your number. So, I just give them and block later.”

On the other hand, Tosin, a Youth Corps member, said it depends on the person asking.

“Honestly it depends. Most of the time I don’t because it’s the thirsty ones that will be chasing and asking for numbers.

“But if he’s cute and smells nice and has something about him then why not. Sometimes I still give to avoid long talk, if I’m in a hurry then I block later”, she said.

Jane Onoja, a university student, said she used to give out fake numbers before, but that this method does not work anymore.

“Before I used to give out fake numbers, but that doesn’t work anymore because most of the time they will insist on calling immediately and if it doesn’t ring or it’s a wrong number, then it gets even worse”, she said.

She said she just gives out her number to avoid harassment or long conversation, especially when they are a group of men or when the person asking is coming in a car.

“When they’re moving in groups or when it’s a car following you, I just give them the number so they can stay off my back and when they call me, I block them,”she added.

Onoja said she never outrightly says no because it would be too dramatic.

Oyindamola, an Attorney, said she just gives when she’s asked but not with her heart.

“I just give, not with my heart but to avoid long talks but I always tell them that it’s at your own risk because I will not talk nor chat with you”, she said.

Pearl, a law student, said she always gives and blocks them afterward.

“Honestly, I give my number to the guy just so he won’t bother me again because men or should I say guys can act like pests when they want your number and you keep saying no.

“So I just give and block immediately after I get a call from the person”, she said.

Ore, the founder of herstory.ng, said she gives her number most of the time to avoid unnecessary drama but if the person asking doesn’t look presentable to her, she wouldn’t give it.

“I give out my number most of the time, except if the person isn’t looking put together or presentable, some people are just too unattractive to have my number”, she said.

She however said a disadvantage of this is that some people call her persistently even after noticing that she does not answer.

She cited an example of a man she had given her number who she then blocked after he called her, but who started calling her with hidden numbers.

“Like this one guy I gave my number to who has been persistently calling me. I picked up the phone and told him off but he kept calling so I blocked him.

“Then he started calling me with a hidden number, which I can’t block because there’s no number displayed”, she said.

Pearl Takpatore, a nutritionist, said she has been instances where she has had to use all three methods, that is, just give out her number to avoid harassment, give out a fake number, or just say no.

“It depends on the situation for me and the person asking. I could use any of the three methods”, she said.

Oreoluwa, a law student, said she only gives her number if she is actually interested in, or attracted to the person asking.

She said her phone number is too personal to her and that she is uncomfortable giving it out freely.

“I don’t feel comfortable giving people my number straight off the bat. I would rather give you my social media because phone numbers are so personal.

“90 percent of the time I would rather say no, and not give out my number. But if the person is very persistent and I’m attracted to the person, I would probably give it to him”, she said.

Yeside, a sexual wellness expert, shares the same view as Oreoluwa. She also believes that phone numbers are very personal and shouldn’t be given out all the time.

She said she just turns them down if she doesn’t want to give out her number.

“Now, I say no and I don’t feel any type of way about it. Men sometimes have a way of trying to coerce you to give out your number even when you don’t want to.

“When I was younger, I might have given my number with maybe one wrong digit in between, but now I just say no outrightly”, she said.

From the information gathered, it can be concluded that more women give out their numbers simply to avoid being harassed or pestered and not because they actually have an interest in the person asking.