Is It Right For Your Girlfriend To Ask Your Man For Money?

It is a habit some of us have. Some ladies would have no qualms asking their friend’s boyfriend for help and financial assistance behind their (friend’s) back.

People can suddenly experience an array of emotions, sadness, anger, shock and disbelief, if their partner cheats or do anything without their knowledge. 

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No matter how upset you are at first hearing the news, it’s important that you collect as much information about what happened between your partner and your friend. 

Just be careful not to overreact or do anything you may regret later , as yelling, blaming, and freaking out won’t resolve anything and will only make your partner shut down and not want to talk about it. 

THE WHISTLER in this report brings you views of Nigerians on what they think on the issue. 

Pwagusadi Joyce (Lecturer)

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“It is not right to ask for financial help from your man without your consent. But she may have her reasons. Asking for financial help can be tricky, if you are in a position where you need to ask for help, you may feel embarrassed or inadequate about your financial abilities, making you feel vulnerable.

“Many people don’t want to discuss with family or friends for fear of being judged. Or simply because they want to protect their privacy. So, I might understand with her, and if I get to know she did that I will condemn her but rather encourage her to be free and talk about it next time.”

Julius Ushie (Entrepreneur)

“ I would love to believe this female friend is already very close to the man and thus can request for help. The man has to respect his partner by informing her too. If she agrees he should go ahead but if she disagrees, your guess is as good as mine.

Joy Ijeoma Hezekiah (private firm)

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“No matter the closeness, the female is a girl friend to the lady so has no right to go directly to the man even if she is dying unless the girl isn’t reachable or available or also if somehow she didn’t get a nice response from her friend then she could as well talk to the man if need be. If not  whatever you want from a man whom you’re just friends with the wife or girl then courtesy demands you go through her unless you are the man’s friend as well.”

Ogechi Anyanwu (Banker)

“It is not right but if she really needs your man to assist her with money, she should do that through you. If she asks your man for money behind you, then there is more to that and she is actually looking for something other than money. When your girlfriend starts asking your man for money watch out and be careful before she destroys your relationship. Things happen these days before you know it she has taken your man from you. A true friend cannot hurt her friend rather make things work for them. If you have such as a friend run away from them before what belong to you turns hers.”

Blessing Okorie (Banker)

“ While it all depends on my relationship with my girlfriend, and it also depends on the issue on ground that must have prompted her to ask for such money. But normally my girlfriend is supposed to carry me along before asking for such favour because if I find out that she went behind me to do such I will not be happy; I can’t see myself doing it to her. She needs to be open to me that is why we are friends. But if she decides not to I have to give her a along rope. Going to my guy to ask for money without letting me know about I, I will sense something is fishy.”

Joshua Jauro (Self Employed)

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“In my opinion it is only wrong if the motive of the person on the receiving end is questionable. However, her friend is in a better channel for a quicker response. It may be wrong if the motive is to take her girlfriend position or to take her place, on the other hand it may be right for her to ask the guy for money depending her present condition. What I mean is if she urgently needs help and she calls the girlfriend’s man for help without her friend knowing there’s no problem in that.”

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