‘Sex Is The Icing’—Women React To Post Saying They Have Nothing To Offer Men Outside Bed

 Lagos-based Ada Eze, is a woman who says it the way she sees it. In a recent post on Facebook, she claimed ladies have nothing to offer their male partners beside sex.

Her post read: “We Ladies remove Sex from relationship you will discover that Most of We Ladies Have nothing to Offer in Relationships….. Search your conscience, What Else Do you offer Aside from Sex?

“Remove money from a relationship and you will discover that Over 90% of Ladies Won’t see a Reason to Be in a Relationship…. We Want Our Men to take care of Us but we Add No Value to their Life Other than sex And troubles.”

THE WHISTLER went to town to seek the reaction of women to the post. Unfortunately, some women agreed with her. But others say women must not be judged by the inadequacies of others, and mentioned other things they offer their male partners beside sex.

Here are some of their responses;

Abuja- Based Make- Up Artist:

” I have  never thought about this question but  there are several things I have  been able  to bring to my relationship and my guy can attest to it.

“Me and my boyfriend will be 4 years old in September, and he has not even seen my pants till today. It’s not because of carrying the virgin card, rather we laid out ground rules even before we started, I told him that if he didn’t like them, he should go and he stayed.

“In my 4 years relationship, we have not had sex but i have brought support and a sense of confidence, assurance and encouragement.

“My guy can be very, very shy but he’s super intelligent. So, I’m always the one pushing him to go beyond his limit. When i know he has the ability to do something….i don’t give him breathing space o”

 Abuja Based Fashion Designer, Rita Elijah:

“The female gender is important not because of sex but because men marry ladies who they can have meaningful conversations with and can build an empire with.

“Sex, most times, is the icing on the cake. To be sincere, I believe that we humans are social beings and there’s a need for companionship in any type of relationship.  Like having someone to talk to when you get back from work, someone to keep you company. 

“Though it’s hard to believe, we have more to offer than physical. We offer our intellectual assistance, companionship, friendship, loyalty  and financial help sometimes.”

 Miss Chinwe James:

“As a woman you should be able to offer true and undiluted friendship. One that supports, listens, nurtures and elevates her man.

“Aside from emotional assets, you should also provide financial knowledge. This is not just about having a job, but can you converse about business and money with your guy? Until then you are just like every other side chicks to him and don’t be surprised when Oga moves on.

“She should be ready to help her guy (he’s not a beast of burden). It’s a relationship and so shouldn’t be self-serving at all times.”

Miss Kate Benson:

“I offer all kinds of support because sex is overrated. I do business and I am also a career woman  and I can take care of myself to some extent. But I also expect that my man can do his best when he comes to me” 

“So I provide emotional support, mental support, and financial support when I can; most of the time I borrow to keep the family going.

“Let’s chop life; sex is just so out of picture, that’s why I can’t relate when men say: ‘she has nothing to offer.’

 “Ladies should learn to put sex aside when they are getting to know a guy, especially when they  do not trust the  guy with their  body-value. Some guys feel, because they got down with you, then they don chop you.

“You can only find out about this when you take the talking stage more important than the steamy sex session

“When you have a rich guy in your corner, look out for this to up your value game, or you will also fall in the line of – she had nothing to offer.” 

“For me, if your man cannot tell you about his nightmare when he wakes up because he believes your prayers will bring him succor, you will never get any value.

“If your man is thinking of a business idea, and can’t ask you or trust with your raw initiative or contribution, aunty you never join the value chain. So for me, you can also have sex with your guy and yet, he knows what value you add to his life.

“You can also not have sex with him, and also he knows, he can wait because he knows sex is just an addition to the value you already have. Whichever way, ladies should take the talking stage more seriously than the sexing stage, because , even the one wey dey keep her body, wey no dey make out, then still they dump them. 

“In general every girl should know what works for them, but also learn to know where to apply what works for them and with whom.”

Fashion Blogger, Miss Gloria Timothy:

“I have groomed myself to be an asset in so many ways to my man. An industrious lady is an asset. She will always be a backbone and support system to husband and kids.

“A woman can comfortably add value by being an intellectual contributor to her husband in terms of making difficult decisions. This will give him a sense of belonging, peace and still help keep his ego intact.”

Unemployed Graduate:

“Truly, most women do not have a positive quota to contribute in a relationship aside sex and most would opt out of a relationship once they have milked a guy dry, proving the fact that they were only there for the money.

“Talking about the sex aspect of it, biblically, sex is meant for the married. It is meant for husband and wife, and not for boyfriend and girlfriends. But immortality has come to live with us so in this century, nothing is wrong with it.

“Be that as it may, most ladies visit their guy  to get  the sexual desire satisfied because they have nothing else to do, talk about or work on when together.

“I believe when you are with a guy you should not think sex, rather you should look forward to having  good conversations with each other, talking about issues of  life, situations around you both, business, future and so on.

“There should be something positive your guy should remember you for in this life, and that’s one of the things that will make him stick with you. It may be just a word you’ve said and it makes a meaning  and he lives with that word for d rest of his life

“If u are in relationship and the guy cannot say meeting you has helped me in a way then u aren’t adding value”