Why A Woman May Dump The Love Of Her Life

It’s never easy to bust out of our comfort zones, much less when it involves something as close to the heart as a love relationship.

Women are instinctively attracted to men’s emotional strengths such as confidence, masculinity, drive and determination and they are repelled by emotional weakness like self-doubt, insecurity, nervousness.

A relationship works when both the man and woman invest sufficient time, emotions and trust in it. It needn’t be equal portions for all the three items, but a balance is required.

There are various reasons behind why a woman may dump a man she’s in love with. THE WHISTLER seeks the opinion of some Nigerians on the issue.

Ms. Uche Nwoko (Businesswoman)

“It is very few women that have the courage to dump the men they truly love. what this means is that it’s a difficult decision to take and can only be taken based on very strong reasons such as wrong attitude, lack of protection, emotional blackmail, cheating, lack of respect, no commitment, rejection by family and friends, compatibility, culture difference all these are the reason I see that can make any woman to leave the man he love”.

Mrs. Lamidi Ajoke Olapeko (Businesswoman)

“Many circumstances can make a woman to dump the man she loves. Most times the man you love may not love you the way you loved him, and love is supposed to be reciprocal. Lack of money can also lead to that, if a man can’t take care of his babe or maybe she doesn’t have job of her own, assault and family pressure will arise and she have no option than to walk away from him”

Mrs. Ajani Ngozi (civil servant)

“If the man is a cheat, self-centered and lies a lot or never create time for her. If he stopped caring about her or making her feel the way that she wants to feel in a relationship, she became needy, insecure and jealous”

Mrs. Promise Adegbie (IT Support Specialist)

“Love is a very big deal and the truth about it is that we have confused love with lust. Love is actually when that guy or woman or is doing something so terrible but yet you still chose to love that person. Love is commitment, that is why I say is a big deal. You see people walking out of relationships and they claimed to love that person but because the man does not have money, children and the kind of expectation they always wanted that is why they are leaving or dumping the man.

“When you talk about love, first of all a woman should find purpose, purpose is the key thing in a relationship, that is my take. When there is love without purpose in relationship he or she will eventually walk away because what keep us in that marriage or relationship is purpose.”

Mrs. Ezinwa Anna Imiruaye (Makeup Artist)

“Dump and love can’t co-exist in one sentence! Dump is usually used when people or someone get what he or she wanted and after they are done, they walk away from them or move on. However, before a woman decides that she wants to leave a man she loved, that love would have shifted from peace, calm, safety, security and care to bondage, bitterness all these contributes to it.

Mrs. Miracle Okoro (NGO Staff)

“I speak from personal experience I will say lack of respect because I would not want to have anything to do with a man who doesn’t respect me or my opinions. Also, lack of attention naturally, human being likes attention but women value it more. Women tend to dump men when they don’t get maximum attention from their man. women dump their men when they feel unattended to, ignored, unappreciated and neglected”.

“I don’t know if one can really dump someone she truly loves. But leaving the person could be because of situation beyond her control. I assume this question is for the unmarried, who goes after material things, physique, fame and popularity, because that is where this dumping issues will fit in best.

Mrs. Mary Obu (Hair stylist)

“I don’t see why a married woman should dump her husband if she really loves him. Unless she is still single, but if she was married then it means there was no love in the first place, either she went into the marriage for fame, revenge or for wealth. So, when things turned bitter, she immediately switched over or dumped him.

“Reason for a single person to walk out could be that the love happens to be one-sided, family disapproval, fake lifestyle, lack of commitment, lack of seriousness in relationship and laziness.”